I said to my parents to leave me alone and my problems are none of their business. I then realized it was something I didn"t mean and apologize for my bad attitudes.
One thing: Once I was upset that my deskmate got an expensive gift from his parents so I got upset and blame my parents for not doing the same thing for me. Then, I calmed down and realized that my parents" unconditional love for me was already the best gift. So I apologized and never said anything like that again.
Me:Hi! I haven"t seen you guys in a long time!
Friend 1: I missed you so much.
Friend 2: I heard you are getting married?
Friend 3: Oh, really? Why didn"t you tell us?
Friend 4: Wow, you"re going to be busy!
Me: Yes, I"m already very busy, so even doubt it if i would have any free time after marrying.
Friend 1: But love is always the most important thing in life!
Friend 2: Yes, and your girlfriend must have waited this for a long time.
Friend 3: You will not think the same after you have kid. Then you will be happy no matter if you are busy or not.
Friend 4: Oh, having a baby is REALLY going to ruin your life. Don"t listen to him(pointing at Friend 3).
Me: I am actually thinking about this. I wonder if I should have a baby within the first two years after my marriage.
Friend 1: If you have a baby that soon, we won"t get to hang out that often any more!
Friend 3: You should! A kid can sweep away much of your sadness and distress when you are frustrated.
Friend 2: You WILL be busier, but you can actually enjoy the process of raising a kid.
Friend 4: DO NOT get a baby!! Well, at least not that fast. You should enjoy this wonderful world as much as you can before you die. And having a baby is NOT going to help.
Me: Hmm. But I heard that having a baby could maintain a marriage better than without a baby.
Friend 4: That"s just a myth! The quality of marriage is determined by you and your wife yourselves, not other side factors.
Friend 3: I actually do think that having a baby helps, because this is one of the few common interest and concern between you and your wife.
Friend 2: Umm, I think it might help a little, but not that quickly, since within two years, you and your wife would still be having a sweet life of love.
Friend 1: Yes! Treat your baby like a toy and raising it would be a chance to play with your wife. Life will be filled with fun!
Me: So how do you guys feel about your life after having kids?
Friend 1: Life is so fun with the kids! Before I had these cute angels, I used to stick to my computer all day long, even after I got married! I know that is a bad habit and it is harming my health, but I am so dependent upon the internet that I couldn"t resist. However, after my kids were born, I feel the responsibilities of being a father. I realized that these little creatures are from me! I need to take care of them.
Friend 2: Having kids are nice, and you will realize later that kids are mandatory in maintaining a good family. I agree with Friend 1. Before I had kids, life to me is just fooling around a couple of years and you go to the tomb. But my mind changed after I had kids. I figured out that from now on I not only live for myself, I also need to live for my kids. I need to see them grow up and be happy.
Friend 3: I think my children make up the meaning of my life. It is hard to raise children but you will receive rewards for dedicating enough time and effort. One day, if you have kids, you will understand what I just said.
Friend 4: My kids are just devils in my life... BUT, occasionally there is that one moment they will make you remember for a life time. Yes they are evil for most of the time and i do feel my life could have been a lot better without them. But that one moment just makes you feel that all the work and all the stress for them are so worthing it.
Me: So, I guess I should have children soon after getting married. Thank you guys so much for giving me such precious advice. See you later!
Friend 1&2&3&4: See you soon! We will expect you to bring a little creature with you next time!